A good place to start is with the C, What is the feeling? The behaviour? The urge? And then look at what the upset is about? In looking at the situation find the particular aspect that is particularly disturbing as here lies the opening to the internal world.
Example Situation-preparing for exams and has not started revising even though attempts have been made but to no avail
A- The thought of working is too much
B- I must not have this thought as I can’t bear the thought of working but if i do not work then i will be behind and be a failure
C- Anxious, procrastinate by watching TV with my desk light left on with my books open ready for me to read and do the work but not carry out the task
I am useless
When finding the particular point at which the disturbance occurs then ask the following two questions;
1) what would you like to be different about the disturbance?
2) Is this a demand or a preference?
The answer to the questions then will show you to the B. It is the B that leads to the C and if the desire is to change the emotional upset and the self defeating behaviour then the point of therapy is to address the B and change the level of conviction in the B from high to low. In order to start this process then it is necessary to acknowledge the behavioural markers that show you when the B has been activated. These markers are useful in showing us that activation of the B and can provide us the opportunity to activate other behaviours that act in line with the goal of therapy.
So in the above ABC the Target goal is to do some revision for the exam but the obstacle is the B not the A. By allowing the B to be there whilst not engaging in the B then activate alternative behaviours in line with the Target goal. The activation of the alternative behaviours will lead to developing conviction in helpful beliefs.
The A and the inference made are not unhealthy and so in the Example A, this is human and not a disturbance in itself as we all had and continue to have the same experience. However it is the disturbance created by a rigid, low tolerance to ones own frustrations and self damning NATs, assumptions and unhelpful beliefs that cause an individual to not achieve a goal. Not being able to live a life consistent with life values and purpose in life then this can cause an accumulative effect leading to becoming unwell.
Goals are informed by Life values, these are areas of life that are aspirational to inspire moving forward. So when looking back at the example ABC in the area of work, it is important to be a psychotherapist but the demanding thoughts held that i must not have the thoughts is holding back the individual and so is leading to a moving away from the Life’s value. The Valued Direction in the the area of work is ‘to be good, successful and work hard inorder to be the best that one can be’. The unhelpful B will not be helpful in moving forward in line with the Life’s direction.
To initiate the therapy it is important to notice the thought and acknowledge it but not engage in it by judging it and telling self how terrible the thought it. Remember comics and the conversation bubbles, by allowing the B to be there they are the bubbles. If one tries to move the bubbles then this can cause distress.
The updated example:
Valued Direction-‘to be good, successful and work hard in order to be the best that one can be’
Target Goal- to pick up books and revise
A-The thought of working is too much
B-I must not have this thought as I can’t bear the thought of working but if (remember bubbles!) and the activate alternative behaviours
C-Anxious, stop rumination and switch off TV and walk to desk and read my books for one hour
I am useful
May lead to motivation and/or a sense of accomplishment.